I get asked to help bloggers sometimes.
Sometimes I can help. Sometimes I cannot help. Such is life.
I will say I always do my best to help my blogging buddies as much as humanly possible in as many ways as humanly possible. Every skilled blogger who generously helped me for years sees my generosity returned because I go where I am loved and help bloggers who showed me the love. I cannot help all, in all ways they ask, but I do my best.
If you want help from me, easily, get so busy helping me you forget to even ask me, before I help you automatically. Favors get filled super fast if you are generous, detached and kind in assisting bloggers for weeks, months and years. But if you do not generously build your friend network you will be in trouble when you need help or a favor because it’ll be too late.
Waiting Too Late
Some bloggers ask for help or a favor out of the blue. I admire these people and wish them well but I simply do not help folks freely and easily if I have no connection with them. Asking people for help – for free – in most regards is a complete waste of time if the individuals are:
- complete strangers
- somewhat strangers
- someone you are familiar with
- someone you chatted with from time to time
- someone you chat with 1, 2 or 3 times a year
I see many bloggers wait too late to help someone, rarely thinking about other bloggers, not making friends. When you run into a real, genuine online or offline problem, you will pay the price because you will not have any dear, loyal friends to ask for help. I turn down requests from bloggers many times because I do not know the bloggers. We are not friends. We are not connected. I rarely if ever see them retweet my blog posts, comment on my blog or buy my stuff. If there is no connection, there is no bond. If there is no bond, there is no friendship. If there is no friendship, there is no trust. If there is no trust, there is no help.
Help First Make Friends Ask for Help Later
Be generous now. Do not delay. The more you help folks without asking for anything in return, the more friends you make and the more friends trust you. The more friends who trust you, the more quickly and easily you gain their help when you need their help.
I as a rule help oodles of bloggers freely via blog comments, mentions on my blog and guest posts, both writing for buddies and inviting buddies to guest post on my blog.
Whenever I need help with anything online or offline, one quick Facebook update yields a steady, instant flow of responses. See why you need to be generous with bloggers? Being generous inspires people to trust you. Trusting friends are there to help you in a million different ways. Meanwhile, bloggers who rarely if ever help people generously find themselves looking from the outside in, slamming into tough problems solo, needing to do things alone because they never generously helped people to make friends with fellow bloggers.
Don’t wait until it’s too late.
Serve people and expect nothing. Your loyalty and generosity will not only accelerate your blogging success but will also help you to get quick help easily when you are in a pinch.
Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you retire to a life of island hopping through smart blogging at Blogging From Paradise.