I know what it feels like to keep blogging when the entire world turns against you.
Everybody is human. Even the most loyal, supportive family member or buddy may question you, doubt you, or flip out when times appear to be tough.
Of course, their heavy, biting criticism is their fear and has nothing to do with you.
If you react defensively to criticism, your fears have been triggered. Versus fighting the critic, thank them. They revealed some clearing you need to do, to become more fear-free and to gracefully glide through criticism in the future.
Blogging appears to be really tough sometimes. You may lose all of your money and go heavily into debt, as almost all successful bloggers, millionaires and billionaires do. In these moments of the appearance of lack, weak-mind people – whether family or friends – tend to panic, criticize you and usually tell you to give up and quit. Losers think this way. You, though, are a winner.
Let’s discuss how to keep blogging despite criticism from family and friends.
Their Criticism Is Their Fears
If someone screams at you for putting the both of you into debt – both husband and wife – know that their fear and pain projects as the criticism. Their criticism has nothing to do with you.
I have seen scenarios where blogger’s wives screamed at the blogger husband for going into debt for a few thousands dollars, because the wife feared if the husband died, she would be stuck with the debt. Not only is this greedy, self-centered and heartless, it also displays that the critical rage is 100% about the wife and has nothing to do with the husband.
Every critical family member is in pain, living in a state of fear, and attempts to project the fear-pain onto you. Know this, to respond versus reacting to criticism, and to give yourself permission to leave the room so they can fume and deal with their own problems.
If You React in Anger or Shame You Need to Clear Fears
If you react negatively to criticism, fighting people, or feeling ashamed, you have fears and pain to feel and clear in order to feel calm, at peace and poised about any situation when criticism arises.
Imagine seeing a roaring rapids of emotions whenever your wife screams at you about your money problems. Guess what? You believe you have money problems and fear losing money. But the split second you feel your anger, fear, rage, shame and embarrassment, you may blow your top – try not to project – but you clear the emotions and simply become more at peace.
Guess what happens when you clear all those fear-filled, upset emotions? You become a calm, chill pond, your surface still. Nothing can upset you.
Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you retire to a life of island hopping through smart blogging at Blogging From Paradise.